Dating & Marriage
Hahahah since we started a commentary going in the last post, thanks to Judith 
, i figured i should do a post on this!
In response to Steph:
haha that’s true that’s true… it’s true that marriage requires hard work, and maybe the Man problem doesn’t really go away
But but but i’m really so glad i don’t have to deal with does he like
me or does he not like me, is this the one? Those questions totally
baffled me for a long time. You of all people know all the rubbish i
went thru!
BUT yes! To all my young readers out there marriage is hard work! The
first year of marriage had to be one of the hardest time in my life!
People say that oh first year is honeymoon year but it was difficult
coz you think you have problems with your best friend, but wait till
you get your best friend poking into your life EVERY MOMENT OF THE DAY,
NITE N DAY. hahaha!
But still it was different from those “is this the one” questions coz i
found the one. It was hard to work out issues BUT it’s so much easier
to work out issues when you know that he is the one and there is
commitment to be together forever. Totally changes the dynamics. You
fight fight fight, argue argue argue but ultimately you know you wanna
stay together forever. That’s what i love about being married.
Thank you God for the covenant of marriage. That’s why i believe
cohabitation is flimsy, it doesn’t have the strength that a real
committed marriage has. Trying out mentality type commitment cannot
handle the struggles of a marriage relationship. You are not
committed until you are ready to sign on the dotted line and vow before
God. So gals n guys, don’t let anyone fool you.
June 30th, 2006 at 7:01 pm
Well said. Totally identify with you about the fight and argue but yet knowing that at the end of the day it is Him you want to grow old with. I think marriage gave me the confidence and the security that I can be who I am as my husband has chosen me and we’ve got God in the equation.
After the excitement of the honeymoon period…and we all know that people can change, the challenge is to make sure that both are growing in the same direction and not apart. Its thus a constant effort making the marriage work. But the fruits of a happy marriage are bountiful
July 1st, 2006 at 12:54 am
I’m still trying ( very hard) to visualise how hard living together will be. My main plan is to escape into another room.We’ll see. But certainly God is what holds it all together, even now in the planning. Am glad X shares the same views on that.
So…you’re really not telling who the guy is huh?:P
July 1st, 2006 at 11:47 am
haha Judith, one of the hardest thing that james n i try to do is to stay in. Stay in the same room. Stay in there till you sort it out. Once you run into another room, the next step is to run out of the house and next is out of the relationship. But it’s hard i know, sometimes we run out coz we can’t stand it but always come back. Knowing that coming back is the right thing to do. God is the strength of our hearts. But it’s hard to visualise, like for me to have a baby. No clue man.
But know that when you get there, God was there before you. 
December 18th, 2006 at 12:21 pm
‘cohabitation is flimsy’ – if only life for everyone was as simple as yours. Open your mind to all types of experience and only then will you see that your god gave us choice and everyones choices are valid – not just yours because you chose to sign a scrap of paper. It is the love that keeps people together. Paper is the flimsiest of all materials.
December 18th, 2006 at 7:30 pm
"That’s why I believe cohabitation is flimsy," I think she was trying to explain what she believes, just like how you are trying to explain yours. Thus, according to your argument, equally valid. Why do most who do not believe in marriage think they are more "open minded"?
Secondly, Its not about the paper, its a contract, an agreement, a promise. You gotta sign on something. I think all she was trying to say is "Commitment with paper is LESS flimsy then commitment without paper."
Finally, this "love" you are talking about, what in the world is it?