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It’s been tough…

I’ve been keeping up with the news – the recent disasters in China, Myanmar and last night I read about Steven Curtis Chapman’s family mishap. Their teenage son accidently ran into their 5 yr old daughter in the driveway and she died at the hospital. And a few days ago, an old man committed suicide by jumping just opposite our home, we actually saw the body covered and the police doing their checks. Just so much happened over a short period of time. The death toll is still amounting in the disaster zones.

 

All the stories about little ones really tug at my heart. Esp about the Chapman family. How’s the teenage son going to live the rest of his life? And the little girl is so sweet. I just cannot imagine. So painful. Lord, have mercy.

 

But then I also read this – Officer breast feeds quake orphans. How amazing.

Mom Care

Ok the reason why i wrote the earlier post is so that i can post this. Since i’ve been reading, thot i might as well share some of the stuff i’ve been reading that have been really encouraging me.

Mom Care

Keep up your daily mom maintenance so you don’t run out of gas.

By Barb Vogelgesang

"Is everyone buckled up? I just need to get gas, and we’re good to go." I looked in the rearview mirror at the four young faces depending on me to get them to their various practices, doctors’ appointments and friends’ houses. I checked for my grocery list and pulled out of our driveway grateful that our minivan enables me to meet these needs. A few months ago, though, I ran out of gas! The five of us sat by the side of the road waiting for help. Our lives stopped because I hadn’t kept up the daily maintenance of our vehicle.

Moms can run out of gas, too. If we don’t care for ourselves in the midst of mothering, we’ll break down and fail to meet the needs of our family. So how do we keep up the daily maintenance on Mom? Following is my personal care and feeding plan so I don’t run out of gas.

Downtime is crucial. If I’m cranky and tired, the atmosphere of our house suffers. I’ve given myself permission to go to sleep early. The laundry can wait until morning to be put away.

Sharing the joy of raising our children with my hubby is important. Instead of hoping my husband will know when I need help, I specifically ask for his help. When it’s his turn to make dinner, I agree that macaroni and cheese with hot dogs is delicious.

Great girlfriends are a must. Real friends don’t tempt us down the path of gossip or self-pity. They inspire us, love us, pray with us, keep us accountable and give us tangible help that we can give back. I use e-mail and the telephone to keep in touch and plan mom playdates to keep me in top condition.

Training my children to be a family team is essential. My four kids help with chores and the everyday stuff of running a house. Their participation has allowed me to avoid the stress of disorder and disharmony. The team mentality spreads out the responsibility so it doesn’t all fall on my shoulders.

Asking for help when I need it is vital. I am omni-nothing. But God is omni-everything. I continually ask him to place the people and resources in my life to help me accomplish all that’s before me. I also work on accepting others’ help and beat back the issues of pride that say I can and must do it all myself.

Having a creative outlet is FUNdamental. God, the ultimate Creator, made us in his image, and I need to satisfy the creative part of me. Writing and teaching theatre enable me to pursue goals beyond the household chore list.

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is critical. Good eating habits, regular exercise and the continued renewing of our minds is essential to mom health. Taking a walk with some moms while our children have dance class, trading the mocha latte for water and reading a book instead of watching TV are great alternatives.

Learning to enjoy my children is significant. I didn’t always enjoy my kids. I had to surrender to motherhood. But changing my perspective from seeing my children as my "work" to acknowledging that my children are my "recreation reminders" has been an incredible blessing to me.

My best refueling comes when I remember to connect with God. I have to be flexible to his plans instead of my own. Ongoing growth and intentional care for my body, mind and spirit fill my mom tank. Then I’m ready for whatever life has in store.

Barb Vogelgesang is a busy mom of four active children. She sees mothering as an exciting adventure because she’s never sure what’s going to happen next. A popular retreat speaker and MOPS Area Coordinator, Barb loves encouraging and inspiring moms.

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